Self-care is supposed to be a way to take care of our bodies and minds so that we can improve our quality of life.
What if he feels responsible for "keeping Mommy happy"?
It really is possible to distract yourself from your distress without falling into patterns of avoidance.
The PERMA model gives us ways to positively impact our psyches, to help us water and weed and love the garden of our minds.
Focus on recovery instead of validation through the exhibition of pain.
You aren't weak or bad or anything if stress triggers your symptoms.
Dissociation is a form of protection. We dissociate when our minds need to protect us from some aspect of our reality.