Having a shame-based personality means that, at my core, I truly believe that I am a bad, unlovable person.
It really is possible to distract yourself from your distress without falling into patterns of avoidance.
The thing about mental illness is that it can act like a giant magnet, completely skewing your internal emotional compass so that it's hard to distinguish between symptoms and regular emotions.
I'm learning that reacting to my emotions doesn't actually get rid of them or spare me from that fear, it just adds a layer of confusion and shame.
When it comes to coping with difficult emotions, changing your hair is a relatively safe, low-risk option.
Disagreement can be painful for HSPs, but there are ways to work with your high sensitivity and have healthy, helpful arguments with your partner.
I feel like my brain is just constantly processing and coping and that's great, really, my life is so much better now than it was five or even just one year ago because of this, but the result is just constant exhaustion.
I'm a freezer. My brain has learned that fighting almost always makes the situation worse, and running betrays the panic I feel inside which could also make things worse, so I just freeze up.
When it comes to my anger, one of my best tools is actually Dungeons and Dragons.
I outlined a few of my favorite distraction and self-soothing tools in my latest HealthyPlace article "How I Use Distress Tolerance Coping Skills When Everything Is Too Much."