Dramatic or not, I am tired of feeling this way, and pretending it isn't happening isn't making anything better. So something has to change.
People with this attachment style grew up with caregivers who were unable to appropriately and consistently comfort them when they were afraid or upset.
You aren't hurting anyone by accepting the reality of your trauma.
I had a pretty rough week. And changing a few behaviors hasn't eradicated my shame. But it has shown me that I am not completely prisoner to it.
Healing is a complicated, twisted, painful, tender thing, and you are not doing it wrong, I promise.
Little t traumas happen all the time, and sometimes they can have a serious, lasting impact on who we are as people.
Having a shame-based personality means that, at my core, I truly believe that I am a bad, unlovable person.
Now I'm trying to embrace my dramatic and weird, trying to be myself, but I've spent so long hiding myself and shape-shifting for other people that I have no idea who that is.
Dissociation is a form of protection. We dissociate when our minds need to protect us from some aspect of our reality.