If someone you love has lived through trauma, hopefully this list will help you understand why they sometimes struggle to open up to you. It isn't personal, trauma is just...hard.
Dramatic or not, I am tired of feeling this way, and pretending it isn't happening isn't making anything better. So something has to change.
People with this attachment style grew up with caregivers who were unable to appropriately and consistently comfort them when they were afraid or upset.
You aren't hurting anyone by accepting the reality of your trauma.
I had a pretty rough week. And changing a few behaviors hasn't eradicated my shame. But it has shown me that I am not completely prisoner to it.
Healing is a complicated, twisted, painful, tender thing, and you are not doing it wrong, I promise.
Gaslighting destroys a person's ability to trust themselves.
It is okay to need gentleness.
Having a shame-based personality means that, at my core, I truly believe that I am a bad, unlovable person.