The people who love us are not qualified therapists, so when we express thoughts that might not make sense to them, especially self-deprecating thoughts, they might brush them off or even get upset with us. If you go to therapy and feel like those thoughts are finally being heard and taken seriously, this can help in unimaginable ways.
I. Hate. Insurance. But I love my therapist.
The process can be intimidating. How do you even find a therapist? How in the world are you supposed to afford it? And once you’re in therapy, what do you talk about? Where should you sit? How do you know if it’s helping?
Pick at least five issues that you are invested in. Focusing on only one or two issues allows the politicians to pander to niche interests and sway you to their side, even when you disagree with the majority of their beliefs.
The only way to get published anywhere is to actually submit your work. That guy might have gotten published because he was a man or because he has “life experience,” but ultimately, he got published because he submitted.
When to quit your job, when to go to the doctor (physical or mental), when to apologize vs. when to fight, and when you’re entitled to a freakout vs. when you’re supposed to keep it together.
Whenever I put on my combat boots and layer a chunky sweater over a sundress, I hear a little voice in my head all day long that says “Fuck yeah, I am providing a valuable service because I have a marketable skill.” You just don’t get that vibe from your underwear (or maybe you do, in which case, kudos).