How to find a therapist good signs and red flags
20-something miseries, advice, how-to, mental health

How to Find a Therapist Part Three: Good Signs and Red Flags

The people who love us are not qualified therapists, so when we express thoughts that might not make sense to them, especially self-deprecating thoughts, they might brush them off or even get upset with us. If you go to therapy and feel like those thoughts are finally being heard and taken seriously, this can help in unimaginable ways.

advice, being a writer, how-to, writing woes

How That Guy You Hate Got Published in The New Yorker

The only way to get published anywhere is to actually submit your work. That guy might have gotten published because he was a man or because he has “life experience,” but ultimately, he got published because he submitted.

Tools in a workshop
20-something miseries, how-to

If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It: How Much Are You Supposed to Put Up With Before it Counts as a Problem?

When to quit your job, when to go to the doctor (physical or mental), when to apologize vs. when to fight, and when you’re entitled to a freakout vs. when you’re supposed to keep it together.

Writer in a coffee shop with coffee
being a writer, how-to, things you might find funny, writing woes

How to Look Like a Real Writer at a Coffee Shop

Whenever I put on my combat boots and layer a chunky sweater over a sundress, I hear a little voice in my head all day long that says “Fuck yeah, I am providing a valuable service because I have a marketable skill.” You just don’t get that vibe from your underwear (or maybe you do, in which case, kudos).